I love this idea from A Playful Day: Love your blog challenge! In the month of April A Playful Day will post a prompt for writing. This week it’s Interactions and Community. In my post I’m setting out some rules of engagement for myself to get more connected within the community in person and online.
1. People first: Shrug off THE SHIES
I made a mistake at Edinburgh Yarn Festival. I didn’t follow my own rules:
- People first
- Experiences over acquisition
I had been volunteering at the P/Hop stall on Saturday when I wasn’t in a workshop. Time flew, but by Sunday at 12:00pm the urge to shop was insane. I went all around the stalls and had a grand old time. But I didn’t talk to many people. I got a bad case of THE SHIES. I even saw A Playful Day in a stairwell and didn’t even stop to say “Thanks for all those podcasts”, or maybe I did a nervous squeak: “hi” as she passed. WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH ME? I went all that way and spoke mainly to people I know.
I did meet Louise from Knit British, but I could hardly form words because of the disconnect between a familiar voice and an unfamiliar face. I wanted to talk w her as one of my priorities for the weekend. Never happened.
I look at the photos I took at the event and wondered: Why didn’t I touch that? Why didn’t I ask about that? I sort of held myself back and poked around a bit. So sad and silly. A little close-up of my life. I made some great purchases, but at the end of the day, I felt like I’d spent the day shopping instead of meeting people. I totally missed the podcast lounge too.
I think there is some truth that no matter the apparently easy to access online interaction; it pales in comparison to in-person interaction. But in person interaction is hard. Hard stuff. I’m awkward and wonder if I’m saying the right thing. So I get THE SHIES and I keep to myself. That really has to stop. I know I’m not going to stop being shy, but I need to put myself in more situations where I will have the chance to interact.
2. Bridge the online generation gap
I think The Internet World has a sort of amnesia. If it’s not on the internet, then it’s forgotten. or – Did it even exist?
I nearly laughed recently when I listened to an interview with a young weaver, I don’t want to call it out, but it was a young weaver who said she couldn’t find anyone who weaves. There are buttloads of weavers. They aren’t online! They are in guilds, they have their own magazines, they meet at events, etc. Just because they aren’t online doesn’t mean they aren’t THERE or don’t exist.
Most of the people in my Weavers, Spinners and Dyers guild don’t seem to be online. Maybe a few use facebook, and one just joined facebook! But they don’t blog, they don’t use twitter, they don’t post pics of their work to Ravelry.
I think as a generation, if I’m in the first online generation, we need to connect to the previous generation of fibre folk.
Very few people are online and live their lives in social media. It would be nice if more people did. It would make it easier to communicate and promote events for sure. Maybe in bridging that gap we can help the previous generation get connected too.
3. Get out there
Having just gone through my stash, I mentally calculated how much I’ve spent on yarn in the last year. I can’t write the number down, but holy moley. If I had that money I could hop over to most of the yarn and fibre festivals this year without question. Travel Knitter keeps a list of the yarny/fibre events in the UK, it’s massive!
So – I think I need to apply my own rules: choose people and experiences first. Get out there, meet more people locally, go to events. Speak to people! Be brave and say more than a squeaky “hi”.
I’m looking forward to this summer. My guild does spinning demonstrations at sheep festival events. They sell a few wee things and show people the wonders of spinning fibre. I’m super looking forward to going to those events.
4. Get connected – virtually
Something totally crazy happened as I was writing this blog post. I began drafting the blog post, and I was originally whining “why is blogging dead, waaaa!” and started feeling like “what’s the point, who’s going to read this? why do anything ever!”
In the comments on A Playful Day’s challenge post, Estella said the same thing, ” is anyone out there listening? The efforts of bloggers and podcasters are sort of getting lost in the flow of detritus online. Had we all missed the boat??
I erased the whining first draft and thought: right what am I going to DO about it? This prompt was about “An Inspired 2015″ not a whiny moaning “I missed the boat 2015, so don’t bother doing anything 2015.”
So I wrote my rules of engagement here, and came up with AN IDEA. I imagined a hub where I could gather all sorts of interesting people and things together: and host virtual gatherings to talk with others online, particularly fibrey spinning folks.
I could curate content from people blogging and podcasting and help them get readers. Marketing is something I love to do in my day job. And I was sort of badgering Knit British about Google Hangouts on Twitter a few weeks ago. She didn’t seem interested… So – Maybe I can try and set it up myself?
And boom: I literally just set up The Drafting Zone: An online zine about handspun fun yesterday morning.
Honestly don’t know why I started this right now, but there ya go! Well maybe I do know… I don’t blog about sad things here, because I want this to be a happy place. I think with the amount of illness and death happening in my family right now, I need a change, I need inspiration, and a purpose. And I think connecting to other people would help immensely.
Good on ya, A Playful Day, and thanks for the podcasts :)